Christian Marriage Advice | A Simple Technique To Strengthen Relationships
Be it an unbeliever or a believer, marriages can be very difficult at times. Today I want to give some Christian advice about how to strengthen your marriage with a very simple principle.
In this video, we will examine a few verses in Ecclesiastes (specifically verse 12).
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up! Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.
Through our marriage, we are able to show Jesus Christ to the world. We do that by forgiving one another, having lots of grace for one another, and submitting to one another just as we would submit to Jesus Christ.
Jesus lives in each one of us. Husbands should submit to their wives, and vice versa, just as if they were submitting to Jesus. We know that Jesus has promised to hold no sins against us. Jesus promises he has canceled out our wrongdoings and nailed him to the cross. Husbands and wives should respond in the same way.
Colossians 2:14
having canceled the certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us, which was hostile to us; and He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross.
Has your spouse wronged you? Be willing to give up your right to not be wronged. Just as Christ forgave you, you also should forgive your spouse.
Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
There are three chords to a strand. These are not very easily torn apart when they are together. It’s the same way in your marriage. The husband and spouse each represent a strand. The third strand is Jesus. Jesus Christ lives in each of us, and when we submit to each other by forgiving, loving, and showing grace, we become a strand that is not easily torn.
Do people see Jesus when they see your marriage? Do they see forgiveness? Do they see grace? The more visible these things are, the more likely your marriage will last and it will be very difficult to tear apart. So always remember to love your spouse just like Jesus loves you.
Author: Mike Cynar
Mike Cynar was raised in a church setting where he frequently noticed that many attendees would eventually drift away. The church labeled these individuals as ‘back sliders’ or ‘fake Christians’ just looking for ‘fire insurance’. However, Mike realized the issue was rarely with these individuals but instead with the church’s message itself. The teachings heavily emphasized behavior improvement and one’s flaws, with only a fleeting mention of one’s identity in Christ. It felt as though every sermon was tailored to the church of Corinth, who as we know or committing sins that even unbelievers don’t partake in. This trend was noticeable not just in one denomination, but across Baptist, Catholic, Pentecostal, and many other churches. Upon understanding the true essence of the gospel – that our righteousness comes from Jesus’ actions, not our own – Mike was inspired to liberate believers from lifeless sermons and reconnect them with the genuine teachings of Jesus. He believes that one can nurture a vibrant and growing bond with Jesus, unhindered by rigid religious practices. And thus, “Jesus Without Religion” was born.
It turns out that it is grace that leads to repentance. And if our heart is to get others to walk in the Spirit and live a godly life, then the best approach is not a beat down sermon, but rather to remind other that it is only when we understand our true identity in Christ that we will live it out. Yes, it’s true, if you’re convinced that God thinks you’re a dirty sinner, you will ultimately continue a lifestyle that mirrors that view, but if you truly believe that even on your worst day, you are called holy, sanctified, justified, and will be presented blameless in the end, well, it turns out this is the secret to living out on the outside what has been worked in to the inside.